I would like to officially welcome you to 2021.
I’m really excited to be sharing today’s post with you.
After surviving the turbulence that came with 2020, I’m grateful for the gift of a new chapter.
In this post, I’ll be highlighting some important steps to take, in order
to adapt to life, after a crisis.
Adaptation: A change in structure, function, or behavior by which a species or individual improves its chance of survival in a specific environment.
But first, let me share a quick story…
So in the early part of 2020, I lost my supposedly “best friend.”
No, this person didn't die, God forbid! But one moment we were like two peas in a pod, the next moment, the person decided to take a walk.
This was a friendship that had lasted about a decade, so I didn’t see it coming.
You can imagine how devastated I was.
That said, I went through the five stages of grief: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
Having walked this journey, here are some practical steps that helped
to get me back on my feet:
First, you have to acknowledge what happened. That’s what acceptance means.
Yes, you got fired from your place of work. Yes, your expensive phone was stolen. Yes, you lost a loved one. Yes, you were betrayed by a friend. Yes, that crisis really happened.
For the first couple of weeks and months, nothing much made sense. I kept going back and forth concerning what had happened.
With time, I realized that, the longer I remained in a place of denial, the longer it would take me to heal.
When I was able to acknowledge what had happened, my healing started.
To adjust is to alter your plans to accommodate new realities.
After a significant crisis, life as you know it, rarely remains the same.
So take a break if you can. You may even need a change of environment.
I had to quit my job after a while. I felt mentally drained and physically exhausted.
I also found new activities to indulge in, like Netflix movies, YouTube comedy skits and lots of mystery novels.
As long as the options are healthy, distractions are okay.
There’s a need to re-orient your life into position.
It’s okay to fall apart for a while but don’t remain there.
I spent days/weeks mainly indoors binge-watching movies and eating like a “foodlum” (heck, I added about 10kg within a year).
But you can’t give up on life just because you hit a roadblock.
Get back to the drawing board. Find out what God would have you do next.
A pastor friend once shared a post that read, “You’re not starting from scratch, you’re starting from experience.”
That helped me a lot. It felt like I had hit rock bottom, but that wasn’t true.
My life has been extraordinary and one single setback cannot undo my personal growth and accomplishments, over the years.
After you have taken adequate time to heal, it’s important to set new goals and achieve them.
Start by keeping them simple. Take baby steps, but be consistent.
Let me share a little secret, it’ll be hard at first. Your pain will want to hold you back.
There will be several false starts and you’ll want to give up altogether.
Giving up is not an option for you, because God’s plan for your future is more beautiful than you can ever imagine.
Find the right company. I can’t overemphasize this. You need people. You’re also needed by people. It can be tempting to hide your pain, but don’t do it. I’m grateful for the gift of a godly circle. I do not take it for granted.
I hope this new year bring lots of good tidings for you and yours!
If you have recently being through a trying circumstance (grief, heartbreak, slander, or a troubling medical diagnosis, and you need some handholding, prayers or simple accountability, you can reach out to me on [email protected]